Tawheed is the key

 

A wise woman

The righteous slave Shu’ayb Rahimahullaah wanted to get married. When he saw her he liked what he saw and she agreed on him aswell. But he feared she wouldnt be patient on his temper and ‘akhlaaq, so he said to her:” know that im of bad akhlaaq (temper)”. She replied to him as a wise, mature and patient wife and said:” worse than you in akhlaaq, is the one who causes you to be bad tempered”(i,e if i make you angry, then i have worse than your akhlaaq). He liked her reply and told her immedietly, “your my wife” (i,e i dont want other than you as a wife).”

[the book al-Athkiyaa' by Ibn al-Jawzee]

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Among the Qurashiyyeen was a noble and righteous woman. A male servant owned by her husband, and who was of no desire in women at all entered upon her while she wasnt wearing her headcover. She shaved off her hair completly and said, ” I dont want to have hair that was seen by non-mahrams”

[From 'Uyoon al-Akhbaar by Ibn Qutaybah]

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A good start

From Umm Hameed Rahimahallaah who said:”The women of al-Madeenah al-Munawwarah used to send the bride before leting her into her new husband on the wedding night to ‘Aaishah bint abi Bakr radiyallaahu ‘anhum. Then she Radiyallaahu ‘anha would put her hand on the brides head and make duaa for her for everything good! she would advise her to fear Allaah and to give the husband the rights he has on her.”

[from "al-musannaf" by ibn abi shaybah]

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The Best of Women

A bedouin was asked about women, and being a man who was experienced with them he said:

“The best woman is the tallest when she stands, the most prominent when she sits, and the most truthful when she speaks. She is the one whose anger subsides quickly, and whose laugh is a beautiful smile. When she does anything, she does it well. She obeys her husband and adheres to her home. She is honored among her people, yet insignificant in her own mind - affectionate and fertile, and all of her affair is good.”